The dilemma My partner and I have been together for three years, have a child together and are trying for a second.
He was married before he met me and his divorce was nasty and dragged on for years. I desperately want to be married, but he does not. It eats me up inside that he gave some other woman this commitment but not me, the mother of his child.
I love this man and want to spend my life with. Can I have the happily ever after even if we never get married? Mariella replies You know the answer to.
Marriage is no guarantee of future happiness as any bitter divorcee will attest. As with religion, an institution like marriage relies on our insecurities for its survival.
Your partner eyc experienced the worst of this romantic merry-go-round and its aftermath so it would be rather worrying if he was eager to return to that situation.
What you can do about his intransigence is another matter.
Understanding your huzband motives would be a good place to start. Your reasons for wanting to be married are as irrational as his are for not.
I suspect that approaching the topic more logically might give you a better hearing. You need to close that distance between you with some sensible thinking.
I suspect your problem may just be one of timing.
It has only been three years and it sounds like a large part of your time together has been taken up with a Wanted ltr future husband family etc divorce battle followed husban your pregnancy. Life is long and everything is up for grabs — just Friendship online india always at the moment we desire it.
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